Zodiac Atlas
Who you are
You're friends with your barista, your neighbor's teenage kid and your ex's mom, and you mean it with all of them. You have opinions on things most people haven't heard of yet, and in six months everyone will be talking about them. You once dyed your hair because of a cause, or a dare, or both. Uranus, the planet of surprise and rebellion, rules your sign, with Saturn as your traditional ruler. "Weird" is a compliment as far as you're concerned, and you get it a lot.
Your emotional world
You'd rather understand a feeling from a little distance than drown in it. You can be warm and caring with a hundred people and still keep your deepest self to yourself. Big emotional scenes make you want to step back and look at things logically. That's not coldness. It's how you stay steady. When you do let someone in, it's because they respected your space first.
When you're hurt
- You detach and go very calm, very logical.
- You talk about the situation like it happened to someone else.
- What actually helpssaying the feeling itself, "I'm hurt," before the analysis.
How you love
Friends first, always. You fall for minds, for people who surprise you, who have their own weird thing going on. You need a relationship that leaves room for both of you to be fully yourselves. Possessiveness kills your interest instantly. When you feel free, you're loyal, curious and endlessly interesting to be with.
How you show love
- You bring them into your wide, strange, wonderful circle of friends.
- You share the ideas you don't share with anyone else.
- You defend their weirdness to anyone who questions it.
- You show up for the causes and people they care about.
Desire and intimacy
Curiosity is your foreplay. Ideas, a little experimentation and a partner who surprises you turn you on. You like a partner who's open to trying new things and talking about them honestly. Doing the same thing twice in a row bores you. A partner who surprises you, mentally and physically, keeps you coming back.
What draws you in
- Originality. A person who isn't trying to be like everyone else.
- A brain you can't fully figure out.
- A person who doesn't text "where are you?" every hour.
- Strong values and the guts to stand by them.
Your shadow side
You can detach so completely that people think you don't care. You argue against things just because everyone else agrees. Once you've made up your mind, you're surprisingly stubborn. And you can be warmer to strangers than to the person closest to you.
Your growth edge
- Stay in the emotional conversation even when you'd rather analyze it.
- Let your partner know they matter more than your hundred friends.
- Agree with someone sometimes, just because they're right.
At a glance
Your strengths
- You were into it two years before it was cool.
- You accept people exactly as they are.
- You stand up for what's right, even when it's unpopular.
- You make friends across every kind of difference.
What you need from a partner
- Freedom, and a lot of it.
- Long talks about strange ideas.
- Room to change your hair, your mind and your plans.
- A friendship at the center of the relationship.
Your dealbreakers
- A partner who wants you to drop the friends they don't get.
- Being told to "just be normal."
- Eye rolls at the causes you care about.